Sorry that I haven't been around much lately..I've got so many things going on around me now...BTW I thank each of you for the messages and emails of support.(It really meant a lot to me that you all were thinking of me.
..This weekend my family wants me to meet them at Mom's house to start cleaning it out..I really just don't feel like I have the heart for it. I go out of my way to avoid it now. The last time I was there was to pick up some things that she requested from her hospital bed. I don't mind telling you I cried like a baby. Now some of the family thinks its time to go through her things Why? Why can't they wait for some hearts to mend it's only been 6 days since we laid her to rest.
My first instinct is to just RUN away from it all.
I would recommend that you go.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Supi. It will not get any better to do later.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Supi and Keads. It will probably be easier to go now rather than later.
ReplyDeleteMy wife and her three sisters did the same thing while we were all there for the funeral of their mother. There was just the four of them and me in my mother in laws house one evening. The four of them sat on their mothers bed and went through the jewelry boxes. They would go around a circle and each one would pick an item and tell a story why and a memory. It helped them cope, and it was a joy to listen to ... Go Stopsign.
ReplyDeleteThanks EVERYONE for your support!
ReplyDeleteI did Go~Just wish I could say I was finished (I think my mom kept every card and picture the kids and the grand kids ever gave her)alot to go through and a bunch of memories.
Glad to hear you went. Everyone grieves differently, so don't be upset with others if they don't understand your feelings, while they deal with their own.
ReplyDeleteI remember when my father died (1998). The absolute last think I wanted to was go in a inventory his belongings and then decide (with my brother and sister) what to do with everything. But once we were there, instead of crying, we celebrated his life and all that he meant to us all. It turned out that it was the perfect therapy to help us deal with our loss.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you went also. Teresa said it best - that it's best to go now because it will never get easier.